"The diag connector is located to the right of the steering column."
Yes. That is the K-line bi-directional diag connector. Three wires from the J2 connector; Power (Brown/Blue), Ground (Green), and K (Orange). The connector is found on the harness by the steering column.
"There are NOT two diag connectors for the ecu."
According to the wiring diagram, there is a K-line connector (J2), and a CAN connector (J1), so I expect to find the CAN connector somewhere on the harness.